Like Dan said: Can you accept being with a man who's somewhere on the bi spectrum? He's bicurious, heteroflexible, or bisexual. If he wants to give head to a man, then he's not straight. "He is wanting to meet a man to have oral sex with." - Does that mean he wants to receive head from a man, give head to a man, or both? I bring this up because the attitude above seems to be a combination of "you need enthusiasm" and "she's probably not good at it" which one prevents the other, etc.Īs for the betrayal, yes it's shitty, and yes he's a lying piece of shit.
If it's a challenge (you have to be very good at this and make me cum) then the partner is likely to be reluctant to keep trying and then never get good at it. What I found when I was younger was that the expectation was, once you start, you keep it up until they cum, and sometimes it doesn't happen and then the mood turns negative or tedious. I think we need to change this- the pressure to have to finish it and frustration if the guy doesn't cum from the head bobbing takes a lot of the fun out of it and I think prevents many women from starting in the first place, whereas the enthusiasm and fun comes without this pressure- if the guy does cum that's great but if he needs to lend a hand, that's OK too, and if it gets boring after a bit and moves on to other things, that's fine also, and if this attitude could become more the norm, I think women would be giving more blow jobs. Also I agree with fubar- and it reminds me of a conversation we had a long time ago about replacing the job with the fun after the blow and how many straight people think of a blow job as requiring "to completion" without the assistance of hands or moving on to something else. Possibly he's just curious but the point is that he's curious about a man. Agree with Donny here and most likely Erica too. That's not what he wants- it's about the man. That has nothing to do with whether or not his current GF gives good and/or frequent blow jobs- if it were, perhaps he'd have joined an online hookup site seeking women to blow him. But this is a dude that joined an online site specifically to look for oral sex from other dudes- so the situation here is that he's seeking a man. I can see a scenario in which a straight man who would rather seek a good and/or frequent blow jobs from skilled women would get frustrated and take it instead from a gay/bi man since it's easier and if he found himself in a situation where a guy was more than willing to suck his cock, I can see a "why not" attitude. You wanna come, right? Respect the hand (and mouth) of fate guiding this along.If it were a matter of the quality / quantity of blow jobs, he would not be out seeking it online from men specifically. In other words, it takes two to tango, which means it takes two to get your dick hard enough and worked up enough to come. A blow job is a two-way street, the result should be something intensely pleasurable to get that’s also intensely pleasurable, albeit in a different way, to give. The real issue here, though, is that just because that’s what men want doesn’t mean that’s what they should get. Though one gay man said that while six minutes was realistic, 15 was preferable. Most other answers on my Facebook poll, from gay and straight men, were well within the five to seven minutes range. I’m absolutely not able to understand any of this, but in my defense, neither could anyone else on the thread. As long as S outweighs the combined time of D and E (the lowest E can always be 0), then the length of the blowjob is simply D + E. Therefore, higher values of S (gained by enthusiastic practice sessions) allow for higher values of both D and E.
If the values of D and E exceed the value of S, and the final answer becomes a negative, the blowjob has failed, and its length is the value of S.
Where S = Stamina of the one giving the blowjob, D = Duration required to reach orgasm and E = Time spent edging. The most basic Blowjob Formula = S - (D + E)